Pain Based Behavior

One of the central concepts in working with children and youth demonstrating " pain-based behavior" is to be in control of the relationship without being controlling.
The teacher needs to set the tone, rhythm and emotional quality of the interactions in the classroom.

This is learned behavior.  We must make a conscious choice not to "fight" with children.

When the young person coming from experiences of pain has the experience of your emotional stability....  regardless of their emotional volatility .....  you will eventually teach the young person that you are an adult that is SAFE and that they can TRUST you!

It is then.... that healing begins!!!